Monthly Archives: September 2013

Grace Even for the Aspie Mom

Is it erratic, pre-teen hormones, or perhaps just my son’s particular brand of Asperger’s that has brought on an overwhelming load of negativity into our home the last few years?  He astounds me by what he can find to whine about.  And whine he does.  This is draining, to say the least.  I know many of his outbursts stem not from behavioral issues, but from a real sense of frustration and overstimulation.  Many still believe that people on the spectrum do not experience a variety of emotions, or that they cannot sense what another is feeling (theory of mind).  This is just not accurate.  I see with my son that he feels too much, at times.  His feelings are bumping into one another, and he has no method of categorizing them..  So, frustration ensues.  Unfortunately, he has also allowed himself to develop the habit of lashing out with no real filter on his speech.  And much to our chagrin, he does this almost exclusively at home. 

How do I teach him to handle anger or frustration?  What do I do to model a calm spirit even when I don’t like what is going on around me?  Well, apparently, this past Monday, I yell back.  I threaten.  I lose my patience and exacerbate the problem until he no longer understands what he was upset about to begin with.  How is it possible to exhibit patience and peace when you are being sorely tested on a regular basis by a pre-teen about to explode?

We both need peace of mind. 

Continue reading Grace Even for the Aspie Mom

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Cooking with Robert McCloskey’s Lentil

Of course G and I had to make lentil stew after reading McCloskey’s book all week.  Even though he had no memory of eating lentils before, I was pretty confident he was going to like them.  He loves all kinds of beans.  Our timing was perfect – or maybe subconsciously planned.  This was our family’s first cold weather meal this year since the temperatures have dropped.  Below, I hope you will find a simple lentil stew recipe that your family will enjoy – or at least SOME people in your family will enjoy.  We can never please them all at once, right?  This recipe is great for any type of lentils: brown, red, green, yellow, etc., but for some reason I prefer the red ones.

LENTIL STEW

  • 16 oz package of lentils
  • 4 C chicken broth
  • 3 C water
  • 2-3 carrots
  • 2 medium potatoes
  • 1 medium onion, chopped or diced
  • 3 garlic cloves
  • 2 bay leaves
  • 1 1/2 t cumin
  • salt and pepper to taste

Begin by heating a little olive oil in a stockpot on medium heat and sautee the chopped onion.  Allow them a minute or two to become transluscent.  Add the minced garlic and potatoes. When these have started cooking nicely, add the lentils, chicken broth and water, along with the bay leaves.  Reduce heat slightly and cover.  When the lentils are beginning to soften, add the chopped carrots.  Add seasonings, and finish cooking.  Add water and any extra salt and pepper needed.  This is a great meal for autumn nights you don’t want meat, or need something hearty that cooks up relatively quickly.  It pairs perfectly with a good, crusty ciabatta.

Happy Eating!

Learning with Lentil

There is something so appealing about the artwork and stories of American children’s writer/illustrator Robert McCloskey.  Although his work is largely from the mid-twentieth century, it is not difficult to see why a modern child would instantly be drawn into his books.  Each of his stories has a strong sense of place, making them perfect for geography and history lessons.  Children also easily identify with the characters, whether animal or human.

While G loves Blueberries for Sal and Make Way for Ducklings, his very favorite by McCloskey is Lentil.  Lentil is a barefoot boy with tousled hair from the fictional town of Alto, Ohio.  He cannot sing no matter how hard he tries, so he learns to play the harmonica.  In doing so, he saves the day when the town grouch tries to debunk the community’s efforts at welcoming home the town’s most important citizen, Col. Carter.  There is a great lesson here about the value of learning anything new, regardless of how  trivial it may seem.  The story has built-in fun with American folk songs, train travel and brass bands.  There are several details on each page to stop and talk about.    This is a fun read with a tremendous collection of possible activities.  In fact , all my boys have loved Lentil.

G loves to make grouchy faces like "Old Sneep."
G loves to make grouchy faces like “Old Sneep.”

History and Math – We naturally combined these two activities together as Lentil introduced us to the folk song “She’ll Be Driving Six White Horses.”  Of course, we had to learn all the verses and sing along.  Although, with my pitiful singing voice, I admit G did ask me to stop after awhile.  Then, we counted out six of his white(ish) horse figures.  We also figured out how many we would need to take away if we had counted seven, or eight, or nine…you get the idea.

iphone1 274iphone1 286Geography – This was easily covered with our laminated placemat and a variety of United States puzzles.  We are neighbors to Lentil, so it was easy to pick out all the surrounding states.  We also decided to create our own map with Citiblocs.  I really thought he would be much more interested in building each street and landmark, but really he wanted to hurry and get something down so he could reenact Lentil walking down the street playing his harmonica.  iphone1 282

iphone1 275Music – The entire story is music, so we had to experiment with it all.  Not only did we listen to brass bands, marching bands and jazz, but we also blew a little horn ourselves.  Then, we just had to test out how the harmonica sounded in the bathtub.  Here we talked about acoustics a bit, but G was mostly interested in making noise.

Sensory Play- Sensory bins are taking over my kitchen, so it was no surprise that we found a bowl to use for yet another one.  This time with lentils.  I don’t think G remembered what lentils were from our last fall/winter diet, so this was a new experience for him.  We got out measuring cups and scoops, and just enjoyed covering our hands in the tiny, flat legumes.  And, of course, we made LENTIL STEW!  Our recipe will be coming up.

"Schliiiish!"  Pretending to be Old Sneep, sucking on a lemon.
“Schliiiish!” Pretending to be Old Sneep, sucking on a lemon.
The tone was "improved one-hundred per cent."
The tone was “improved one-hundred per cent.”

Other projects- G was thoroughly enjoying Lentil, but I felt we had to leave Alto, Ohio at some point, so there were other ideas in my head that we didn’t get to THIS TIME.  The Alto residents decorate the streets with American flags, so a decorating day or parade could be lots of fun.  Col. Carter promises to build Alto a new hospital, so why not build a sensory bin full of dirt, rocks, construction trucks, etc, or maybe just build a hospital with blocks?

Let us know if you have enjoyed Lentil as much as we have.

Starting out with a good book

While growing up, my father and grandfather were both printers.  As a girl who loved the printed word, I found this to be a fitting heritage.  It is true; I am one of those peculiar people who  take pleasure in smelling books.  I savour them, really.  I can still distinctly recall the scent of my third grade social studies book.

Yours truly sniffing a Christmas present back in 1988.
Yours truly sniffing a Christmas present back in 1988.

I do read books on my Kindle app today, but if I particularly want to spend my time as with a friend, I hold a book in my hand, and flip its pages, taking in either the musty or crisp  aroma.  Charlie Bucket, Anne of Green Gables, Laura Ingalls, Emily Byrd Starr, then later Alyosha, Antonia, Jo March and Levin.  They are all dear friends.  I cannot imagine growing up without them.    And so it seems appropriate that I should begin a blog  dealing largely  with literature.

Literature-based learning is simply engaging in authentic activities based on the book’s themes or details.  Instead of asking children comprehension questions or providing a young child with a color page, we pay attention to where our child’s eye is naturally drawn in a picture book, or what older children repeatedly mention in a book discussion.

My three-year-old, G, has always loved books.  From an extremely early age he would follow the text along with his finger from left to right.  He is completely engaged in his stories and loves to create his own.  It is not difficult to take his lead in creating enrichment activities and pre-reading exercises.  However, I believe this approach to children’s literature will also engage the reluctant reader and fidgety child.

G sometimes picks out books for us to “study,” but not always.  We like thoughtful story lines with beautiful, detailed illustrations.  G often surprises me with all the tiny, background details he notices, and how he is eager for his vocabulary to expand.  We read our chosen book every day, sometimes more than once, for a week or so.  During this time G and I delve into preschool science projects, literacy activities, geography lessons and field trips, all based on this particular book.

Most of all, we have fun.  Literature is by far my favorite thing to share with all three of my boys.  I still read to A and S, although they have been literate for years.  I have even caught them smelling a book or two.  Yes, curling up with a good book is my favorite thing to do with my guys.  Well, maybe besides getting a hug.